A recent conversation with my dad sparked my curiosity, causing me to reflect on why some people experience life-changing breakthroughs while others slog through their healing journeys for years.
My inquiry indicates that regardless of a person’s history, their degree of openness makes a big difference on their healing trajectory. Being open means how ready they are to be different than who they have known themselves to be.
This level of openness is like an innocent child who thinks they can be or do anything. They do not let disappointments sway them. It is like toddlers learning to walk. If they fall down, they might cry, but they get back up and try again.
When it comes to healing, some of us are too sophisticated for our own good. We have been around the block and think we know what we can expect. We have research, stories and personal experiences proving our viewpoints.
Henry Ford said: whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.
The reticular activating system in the brain helps us filter out information that it deems irrelevant or not important. If we think we can’t or it is not possible, we will notice evidence and make choices that reinforce the same.
When we are open to new possibilities, we expand our awareness. This allows us to pick up information that we had been oblivious to. That is why people start noticing a particular car “everywhere” when they decide to buy it.
Being open-minded helps us with learning information. When it comes to healing, being open-hearted is the key. The emotional connection allows us to be vulnerable so that we are more receptive to the goodness in life.
Just because we are caring and kind with others doesn’t mean our heart is open to our own healing. We might be afraid of being disappointed by false hope or having to adapt to big changes. Fear builds a wall around us.
When we are in fear, the body produces chemicals for survival instead of chemicals for healing. That is why some people’s healing journeys follow a yo-yo pattern even if they are doing everything right.
Many chronic health conditions are results of the system living in the survival mode. For the body to truly heal, we need to update the system so that it knows that the danger is over and healing can consistently take a higher priority.
Earlier in my energy healing journey, a healer said I had a thick energetic wall around my heart. For years, I would focus on breaking down the blocks in my system. Once I got over the hump, some other issues would pop up.
Then one day, I learned that awe and wonder has the vibrational frequency that lets us rise to infinite possibilities. I started practicing being in a state of awe and wonder to accelerate my healing.
I had thought healing was for specific concerns. My process has opened me up so much that my life is unrecognizable. I couldn’t believe things can get so much better when I take full responsibility for being the creator of my life.
I was not as open earlier in my healing journey, but it started with a small crack.
A colleague had suggested that I get a teddy bear. Although my practical mind dismissed that as frivolous, a tiny part of me was curious. My teddy friend has helped me soften so that I can be in the state of awe and wonder.
Clients who are open often notice major shifts before we begin officially. Some dreamt of having powerful healing with me. Their dreams had a profound impact on their psyche, setting them up for deeper transformation when we work together.
If being open plays a key role in healing and rediscovering ourselves, how can we be more open to possibilities that are beyond our understanding and surpass our past experiences?
We can keep our hearts open with simple activities: play with babies or pets, and dance or sing like nobody is watching. I like playing with my teddy friends and communing with nature. What is one simple activity that opens your heart?
Back to my dad, his wellness pursuit is not due to lack of trying. He has been seeing doctors and practitioners, trying a variety of modalities for decades. Things would stabilize for a while, and something else would come up.
In our recent conversation, it dawned on me that his effort is not paying off because deep down he thinks he will get a little better, but not significantly better. I recall the limitations he keeps telling me throughout my life.
My dad, who had to escape from his own country and deal with complex family dynamics since he was little, has learned that the world is a dangerous place. He attributes his success to being very cautious and making decisions based on calculated risk.
His struggles cause him to be caring and generous with many. His caution protects him from getting disappointed. To protect his heart, he doesn’t expect much regarding his own healing possibilities.
Instead of offering him advice, I have learned to listen to him with my heart and respect his choices. With this level of acceptance, we laugh at our differences and it creates space for him to remain hopeful about his journey.
Speaking of hope, I am so delighted that a new participant shared that the June meditation reminded her of the tunnel of love in Disneyland. That is so fun! The next Honor the Sacred Within group meditation will be held on Friday, July 25.
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